It’s Your Turn

Dating - And Relationships - for People Pleasers

It’s a lethal combo - People Pleasing and dating… or being the people pleaser in a romantic relationship! 
Why? 
We do too much. 
We give too much. 
We get hurt too much. 
And this is when “too much” isn’t what we’re going for! 
In today’s episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser I’ll give you some hard won strategies for how to keep people pleasing out of your romantic relationships! 
 
Whether you’re dating or in a relationship you’ll get the big transformation I had to make in order to keep my people pleasing ways out of my dating life! 

Setting Boundaries at Work

I get this a lot from clients and when I’m conducting leadership development classes. 
We can’t set boundaries at work. After-all, we’re being paid to do what we’re told. 
Or, being paid to “manage” others, so that includes fixing the things they do wrong, or staying late to finish the project they are behind on, etc. 
In today’s episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser I’m going to challenge some of those thoughts. 
There’s a difference between managing and over-functioning for someone else. 
There’s a difference between being paid to do a job and never saying no. 
Join me for a practical and powerful conversation about leaving behind our people pleasing habits when we go to work. 
As always, I can’t wait to get your comments and feedback!
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Email me at brenda@brendaflorida.com

The Dark Side of Empathy

Is there a dark side to empathy? 
I have so many clients who are plagued by being so empathetic, they are overwhelmed by all the feelings they are picking up from others, and they struggle to set boundaries. 
I can relate. 
I had a profound moment one day in a conversation, with a man I was dating at the time, that has changed my attitude about empathy and boundaries. 
You’ll hear all about this truly transformations and frankly, dramatic, moment in my life, in today’s episode. 
 
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To ask a question to be addressed on a future episode, click HERE.
 
Email me at brenda@brendaflorida.com

Who Are You Trying To Be?

All of us people pleasers know what it’s like to try to be someone you aren’t.
We want love.
We want approval.
We try desperately to be who our family, spouse, boss, church, or culture wants us to be.
In today’s episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser I’m unpacking this issue.  
Many of my brothers and sisters in the black, indigenous, people of color and LGBTQ+ communities are deeply impacted by this dilemma, where the cost of being authentic can be especially high.
And yet, we are never truly happy unless we are expressing our authentic nature.
This episode begins a theme that I will revisit in future podcasts. The temptation to abandon our authentic self in order to fit in or get the love, approval and acceptance we all crave is something that must end. For everyone.
This is an open invitation for you to be a guest on the podcast. If you are black, indigenous, a person of color and/or LGBTQ+ I would love to hear your story on this journey from trying to be someone you aren’t, to discovering your authentic expression and then being able to share that out in the world.
Email me at Brenda@BrendaFlorida.com and let me know you are interested in sharing your story!
To join my Facebook Group, Liberate Your People Pleaser, click HERE. 
To ask a question to be addressed on a future episode, click HERE.

Do you Want to be Seen, Heard and Valued?

Are you longing to be seen, heard and valued? Many of us have gotten into personal and/or professional relationships where we are NOT seen, heard and valued for our authentic selves.
Today’s episode will give you specific steps to begin to be seen, heard and valued in your life.
In this episode I mentioned a story I shared in Episode 5, The Color of Freedom. You can listen to that episode here: https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-uv8qk-e9cc70
 
To join my Facebook Group, Liberate Your People Pleaser, click HERE. 
To ask a question to be addressed on a future episode, click HERE.
Email me at brenda@brendaflorida.com

Taking a Big Leap after a Failure

I’ve totally bombed a few times in my life. 
I’m being vulnerable and honest in this week’s episode.
We have to know how to recover when things go wrong. I'll share how I did it after a big leap I took that... bombed! Big time! And how I'm taking another leap now. 
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To ask a question to be addressed on a future episode, click HERE.

Episode 9; This is Your Time

This is a time in history, that calls for a leap of faith. 
I’ve had a lot of experience with big leaps. 
In this week’s podcast you’ll get tips on how to navigate your big leaps, whether you choose them, or, like a pandemic, they are thrust upon you! 
I share a couple of personal stories about my big leaps. What leaps have you taken?  Were you able to find the possibilities? Or did fear take hold?
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To ask a question to be addressed on a future episode, click HERE.

Liberation Through Boundaries

There's no liberation without boundaries! In today's episode I'm breaking down boundaries. I'll tell you why it can be so hard and give you some great tips for setting the stage and being prepared to set those boundaries! 
Click HERE to find out more about my Boundary Coaching Package 
You can learn more about Byron Katie, at www.byronkatie.com
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BOLD Empowerment

It's been a long road for me to empowerment. What if I had known what I know now when I was eight years old? Or a teenager? We're always saying, "I wish I had known this when I was younger." In today's episode I'm going to share some practical steps to empowerment and a little bit about a new program I'll be facilitating soon, called, BOLD, by Susan Hyatt. It's for girls 8 -- 18 years old to give them empowerment tools for dealing with social media, speaking up for themselves, loving their bodies, and more.
Email me if you are interested in finding out more, or know a girls who would be, in BOLD! Brenda@BrendaFlorida.com
To join my Facebook Group, Liberate Your People Pleaser, click HERE. 
To ask a question to be addressed on a future episode, click HERE.
You can find Susan Hyatt at www.shyatt.com

Rebellion Is A Gift

Have you ever rebelled? We often judge rebellion in ourselves and others. But in this episode I'm going to share how rebellion can be a great gift on your journey to liberate your people pleaser! 
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